You may have heard several times before that women love a man who has a little bit of mystery about him. Well, we all know that this is true but how exactly do you "create" this mystery when you're with a woman you want to seduce? First you have to realise how female psychology works on a basic level. You see, women are ALWAYS attracted to a man who they don't know much about, but who they can "gradually discover," little by little. Think of it in terms of un-wrapping a Christmas present: You are excited to get it but you don't know what it is until you start to unwrap it, and as each layer comes off, the anticipation increases until you get to see what the present is at the end. The reason why most men find it difficult to be mysterious is because they approach women with "no wrapping" at all. It's as if they present themselves "bare" and shout, "Here I am, no need to discover me at all." And once a guy puts himself in this position, he might as well rule out any chance of seduction. You "gotta" come in a colourful, interesting wrapping and I'm about to show you how to do it. Right, let's assume you've met a girl you find attractive and you start chatting with her. As long as you have some sort of a rapport or connection with her, it won't be long before she starts asking you questions about yourself like, "What do you do for a living?" or "Where are you from?" Now, whenever a girl asks you personal questions, THAT IS YOUR CHANCE to demonstrate some mystery and show her that there is a "wrapper" that she has to take off before getting to see the "real" you. So what I usually do at this point is this: First, I never answer the question directly, I find a way to make a joke about the question or give a ridiculous answer. Now, it is very important here to be PLAYFUL with her when doing this or else you'll come across as arrogant or immature. So for example, a woman might ask me shortly after we meet, "What do you do for a living?" I'll reply "Oh me, I clean the dust off people's shoes at the bus stop as they go to work in the morning." And if she laughs at that I'll say with a straight face, (but still in a funny and playful manner) "What are you laughing at? I take my job very seriously. What do YOU do, miss clever pants?" You see, she knows I'm joking but by doing this I'm communicating two very important things that build up a lot of mystery in her mind. I'm FORCING her to try to "unwrap" my complex layers. This really generates massive attraction in her subconscious mind. This is interesting, I'm not telling her even something simple like my job and that begins to build the anticipation in her mind about who I am. Now, you will notice that I'm "teasing" her at the same time, (women love to be teased), I'm showing her that I've got a great sense of humor as well as the mystery. Secondly I'm communicating to her subconscious mind that I'm not trying to impress her with my job, (she starts to see me as a secure man who doesn't need to brag about his job or how much money he makes). Instead I'm throwing her an invitation for HER to start impressing me (women are deeply attracted to men who are choosy about women, and that's what I'm doing here, while being playful with her). I hope you can see why I want her to "take the bait" and start trying to impress me. By not telling a girl what she might genuinely want to know about you, you're prolonging the mystery factor, and the longer you keep prolonging it, the more attracted to you she'll get. And remember, you can do this with almost any personal questions she asks you, not just your job. Of course as you get to know her a bit more you can begin to let her know a little bit more of you. But make her EARN it each time by her telling you more about HERSELF. This way, you get her to "unwrap" you only a little bit at a time. |
